Go everywhere and experience everything, conquer the world with your mighty swing. You don't need to do great things to be the greatest, you just have to be yourself, be different and make a difference.
TFCU Invades Manila as it held their very first TFCU talks in the Philippines last March 27 at the Dolphy Theater – Sgt. Esguerra Ave cor. Mother Ignacia St. Quezon City Philippines. Spearheaded by TFC (The Filipino Channel) in cooperation with ABS-CBN corporation.
The TFCU talks was packed with 3 great speakers who made their mark as an individual with passion and purpose. The said program were delegated by the different Universities, Colleges and other media partners.
The program started with the singing of the national anthem followed by the invocation led by a student from the Polytechnic University of the Philippines. Then a welcoming remarks were given by the COO . Moving on, Engr. Aisa Mijeno, one of the speaker, shared her story on coming up with her ingenious craft- The SALT LAMP. “You don’t have to do big things to make a change.” she said as she challenged the delegates on finding their purpose and creating a positive impact for the common good. Then a 30- an hour break was given to the delegates preparing them for the next talk.
Mr. Jonathan Joson who is an experienced digital marketer and an affiliate of Google gave his 4 cents after the break where he shared 4 important factors millenials must know. First is that Everyone is entitled for mistakes for “career starts at 30” as he said. “In order for you to excel, you have to practice a lot. Ten thousand hours and a lot more.” he added. Second is to make value as “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care”. Third is, measure everything for “A life well-measured is a life worth living and lastly the fourth, is to take control for the worst thing you can ever experience is to yonder along aimlessly”.
Finally, Mr. Garett G took the stage and shared his story on how he has created his mark and his experience staying here in the Philippines. He also shared his story of success, passion and advocacy as he continue to make his mark in this world.
Then, a blasting performance that rocked the audience were given as KZ Tandingan, the soul supreme heat up the stage with her astounding song productions. The program ended with a closing remark and a photo ops with the speakers.
“As an individual youth of today’s era, attending the TFCU talks prompted me to push through and hold on still amid life’s debacles and endeavors. It motivated me to be the best individual as I can be. Everyone has their own story. Stories of success and some are of failures. Despite of those, everyone can shine and make a mark, leaving footprints behind, creating a positive societal impact. TFCU reminded me to be strong and passionate ,igniting my zealous desires to keep on moving forward. Though the stars seem to be out of reach, but with perseverance and dedication your goals and dreams will be within your grasp.”
Ang mundo’y sadyang mapanghusga. Marami sa mga tao, iniisip na nakahihigit sila. Ngunit ang iba nama’y patuloy na hinayaang maiwan sila sa ibaba. OO, Tama! Ang mundo ay hindi patas. Bakit hindi nalang ginawang pantay ang lahat; Bakit di na lang magkakapareho ang lahat. Ang mga iyan ay iilan lamang sa mga bagay na umiiral sa aking mumunti at payak na isipan. Namulat ako sa mundong mapanghusga, Nabuhay ako sa mundong dilat ang mata. Dilat ang mga mata sa mga bagay na nangyayari sa kapaligiran. Dilat ang mata sa mga katotohanang hindi nakikita ng ilan. Ang mundo’y may pagtatangi sa iba; Ang mundo’y hindi patas.
Ako si Tikboy, labindalawang taong gulang. Mulat sa kahirapan, Salat sa kayamanan. Kuto sa tingin ng iilan. Pabigat sa mata ng lipunan. Sampung taon ako noong ako’y maulila nang parehong matupok ng nagngangalit na apoy ang aking mga magulang noong nasunog ang aming tahanan siyam na taong gulang palang ako. Namuhay akong nagiisa, palaboy laboy sa kalsada. Tanging sarili ang naging kandungan. Sipag at tiyaga ang aking naging puhunan. Sa kabila ng pagdarahop na aking tinamasa ni minsan di ako nagalit doon sa tao sa itaas. OO, aaminin ko. Minsa’y kinukwestiyon ko siya, kung minsa’y sinisisi ko sya. Anupa’t narito ako sa mundong ibabaw kung patuloy lang din nya akong idadayukdok sa dusa. Ngunit alam ko naman na may dahilan kung bakit nangyayari ang lahat ng ito. Dahil may plano Siya para sa bawat isa sa atin.
Dito ako sa tondo napadpad. Kung saan, halos buong buhay ko dito na idinusta. Saksi ako sa lahat ng kaguluhan; Saksi ako sa lahat ng karahasan. Labing isang taong gulang ako ng matuto akong magbatak. Tulak dito, tulak doon. Singhot dito, singhot doon. Lagi akong kabilang sa mga basagan, Kahit sino pa yan wala akong uurungan. Pabalik balik ako sa kulungan. Bawat pasikot ay kabisado ko na. Hanggang isang araw, doon sa aking selda. Tila may isang sensasyong kumudlit sa aking matigas na damdamin. Isang pakiramdam na di ko mawari. Sumandaling napatigil, sa kawala’y sumisid. Binalikan lahat, bawat pangyayari. Hanggang ang bukal sa mga mata’y walang tigil na sa pagtagas. Naalala ko noong kabataan ko, napakasaya ng pagkabata ko. Ang nanay ay laging nakangiti, pakanta kanta sa bawat gawain. Ang tatay ay laging may pasalubong na bitbit di alintana ang pagod sa trabaho. Namiss ko ang mga magulang ko, mga magulang na ngayon ay wala na ako. Dahil dito naging ganito ang buhay ko. Magulo, marahas, walang direksyon.
Lumipas ang sampung taon, ngayon ay tignan nyo ako. Sino ang magaakalang ang batang mistulang walang direksiyon noon ay haharap sa inyo ngayon. Magtatapos ng may pinakamataas na parangal sa kurson pagaabogasya. Sinong mag aakalang ang batang palaboy noon ay magiging ganito na ngayon. Marahil siguro ay nagtataka kayo, di makapaniwala sa mga narinig ninyo. Tama po ang narinig ninyo, lahat ng sinabi ko ay totoo. Bakit ko sinasabi ito? Marahil ay gusto kong ipaalam sa inyo, mga kamag aral ko, mga guro, at mga magulang na naririto na sa usaping edukasyon ay walang mayaman, walang mahirap; walang mabuti, walang masama. Na kahit ano ka man o sino ka man, hindi malabong magtagumpay ka basta’t magsumikap ka. Walang ibang hadlang sa pagaaral kundi ang sarili mo lamang. Maaring kapos ka sa pera o di nama’y sadyang wala ka, pero kung nais mo talaga ang isang bagay hahanap at hahanap ka ng paraan para makamit mo ito. Papaano? Madali lang po. Tanging sarili mo lang ang makakatulong sa iyo. Hanggat patuloy kang lumalaban, hanggat patuloy kang nagsusumikap at hanggat patuloy kang bumabangon pagkatapos madapa. Pasasaan pa’t maabot mo rin ang bituing nais mong abutin.
Walang mataas na bundok, malalim na dagat at matigas na bato ang kayang tumibag sa taong handang gawin ang lahat para umunlad. Hindi naging hadlang ang masalimuot na nakaraan, ang aking mga pinagdaanan upang marating ko kung nasaan man ako ngayon. Bagkus, ginamit ko ang mga ito bilang motibasyon upang patuloy akong magpursige upang mapaunlad at mabago ang takbo ng buhay ko. Hindi biro ang lahat ngunit nagpapasalamat ako sa Maykapal dahil hindi nya ako hinayaan. Hindi sya sumuko noong panahong gusto ko ng sumuko. Salamat, Salamat sa mga taong ginamit nyang instrumento upang maituwid muli ang landas na minsan ng nabaluktot.
Alay ko ang tagumpay na ito sa Diyos, sa mga magulang ko na pinapanuod ako mula sa itaas, mga taong sumuporta at patuloy na sumusuporta sa akin. Walang Mark Tyler Tuazon dito sa harap nyo kung wala ang mga taong ito. Ngayon sa araw ng ating pagtatapos mga kapwa ko estudyante, patuloy nating pagningasin ang apoy na isinindi sa atin ng ating mga magulang at guro. Patuloy nating paningningin ang ilaw natin upang magsilbing inspirasyon sa mga taong nakapaligid sa atin. Alam ko na bawat isa sa atin ay may kanya kanyang kwento, kanya kanyang aral na napulot at kanya kanyang karanasan na ating babaunin sa patuloy na paglalayag sa susunod na yugto ng ating buhay.
Ngayon sa araw na ito ipinapangako ko na patuloy akong magsisilbing inspirasyon sa bawat isa. Patuloy kong itataguyod ang pangarap ko at ng mga magulang ko. Patuloy kong payayabungin ang nasiimulan kong adhikain at adbokasiya. Sa ating pagtatapos binabati ko kayong lahat, patuloy tayong sumulong at gampanan ang bawat papel na nakaatang sa atin. Patuloy nating parangalan ang ating mga magulang lalong lalo na ang ating bayan. Muli binabati ko kayo at maligayang araw ng pagtatapos. Maraming salamat po at pagpalain nawa tayo!
This is just a product of my mind to inspire youth to continue reaching their dreams. To motivate every individual that there may be a lot of obstacles to face but as log as you keep moving you’ll get going.
Many times I asked myself if still I can? Am I really that good? And am I really that happy? Few questions lurking on my mind bombarding me whether I am or not. At this juncture of life, I’m so confused, so empty and so distraught wandering around this quagmire of my darkness. I kept walking on and found myself out nowhere- no path, no direction.
I’m in this certain dilemma that I myself cannot explain. I cannot fathom how deep is the source of this feeling. Seems like I’m on a dark place – no one’s around and nothing to be seen. I feel so all alone when I know there are a lot of shoulders I can lean on. It’s like I can’t speak my heart out that no matter how heavy this burdens I have, my mouth can’t speak what was it all about. Maybe because I get used to it? Or I’m that really afraid telling anyone about this just to portray a strong character that I should be. I don’t know, I can’t figure out why and how. I can’t describe what kind of scenario I’m in, where on earth could I find the answer and who to ask about it.
I get used to it. I get used of being independent since then. I get used of being secretive as I am. I get used of being pretentious as I can be. I get used to be all alone from the very beginning.
I am chained. I am struggling. I am fighting.
I am Chained.
I am chained in my own world that I guess no one could ever understand. I am chained to my own ideas about things in life. I am chained to the reality that my parents would never understand the things I want in my life. I am chained to the powers over me making me like a lifeless robot doing whatever they direct me. I am chained to the elegant lies I feed myself just to cope up with this life I have. I feel so weak, so helpless, so powerless. I know what to do but there are things that holds me to do so withdrawing me to break free from these chains that’s been binding me disabling me to move and act according to my own will.
I am Struggling.
I am struggling finding my way out of this darkness I’m in. I’m struggling towards life butt ins. I am struggling to the reality I’m in. I’m struggling towards the dreams that I have. I’m struggling to the ideas that may never happen. I’m struggling over the powers that’s controlling me. I’m struggling to the fact that life should be like this and not that. I’m struggling with all my might and power to be as free as I want to be. I am struggling to break the chains and show to the world what I can do and who I really am. I may be weak as I am yet I can be strong amidst my weaknesses, Brave beyond my fears, and better than my past.
I am Fighting.
I am fighting against all odds I am experiencing. I am fighting towards the ideas that should be. I am fighting showing the world my capabilities and uniqueness. I am fighting coz I hate to be chained anymore. I want change in my life, I want to direct my life and I want to be what I really want to be. I am fighting coz it’s enough being afraid anymore. It’s time to prove myself, that in this decision I’ll be taking – this where my happiness is found, this is where my life should start and this is my life should be.
You just only see the preface and haven’t gone far deep. Remember that what is essential is invisible to the eyes. Open yourself to the reality and embrace your new beginnings. Leave everything behind and walk straight your path. Learn to live your life and be not afraid.
Life is full of challenges and breakthrough. It is okay to stumble but learn to stand again after you fall. It is not shameful to retreat and be defeated coz that is life is all about. What is shameful is you stop and quit the fight.
And today as I step unto another breakthrough of life. I will fear nothing for I am firm that what I am doing is what will keep and make me as a being. I’ll walk to the path I am creating with boldness and hope to be where I want to be. Head high, fears down. Soon I’ll be the person I want to be.
As we go along through life’s journey, we encounter sets of challenges and obstacle that will test our ability. It may be hard as it seems but I tell you there is no problem that has no solution.
In life those who are weak loses and those who keep on fighting wins. No matter how hard the challenge you are facing right now just don’t give up and give your greatest blow.
You’re attitude and disposition matter. The more positive in life you become, the more positive the outcomes will be.
Don’t be a loser, be brave and be great!
Yes, life is indeed full of complication and challenges, lots of battles left and right and lots of decision making about this and that. Well that’s life is. We sometimes get tripped and feel pressured. There are times we lose hope and feel like quitting but cheer up dude, remember that great battles were given to great warriors.
This, not that; over there; No! Stop, you should do this, you should do that; Follow me. Some sort of forces that is controlling you to do the things you may not want yet you can’t hardly resist since you are chained and tangled unto his command.
Have you ever experienced of not deciding on your own since there are lot of forces that holds you from doing so? Or ever experience that every time you decide for your self someone will interfere with your decision. Seem like you’re a puppet who cannot stand on your own because of always been directed of what to do with your life.
The researcher conducted a study and found out that 100% of the population out of 50 respondents has experienced of being manipulated and intervened with regards to their decisions. This intervention is a force that hinders one person to move according to his will. This given scenario may result to different cases with regards on how the person will respond with this intervention.
We have interviewed a person experiencing the said phenomenon and see what we found out.
In the case of Angela Valbuena, a 20 year old Ab Communication student living at Caloocan City who is experiencing the said phenomenon, she told us what life she have, having experiencing being manipulated by her mother.
She is living a complicated life with a large and dynamic family that consists of very expressive individuals.
“But since this family is rather large, it tends to be quite distant and relationships are often inadequately cared for”, according to her.
Her dad doesn’t care about her anymore since he left them in 2007 and so she is stuck with her so overly-protective mom who basically became both parents to her. Most of the time her mom treats her like a child that when she reason like an adult her mom always shuts her off.
With that having an over-protective mother made her like a puppet who can’t fully decide on her own with regards to certain matters about herself. when she’s at home she always stays in her room because according to her
“it’s the most comfortable place in the house where she can do anything she want out of sight of her mother. when she is outside she acts reluctant and anxious when it comes to travelling and doing outdoor activities because of not being conditioned to “be” an outdoor person. ” I am often dependent on surroundings, too”
Of course for her, life isn’t that good enough since she always experience being chained and not free. Chained to the idea of always be treated like a child and will not be allowed to make decisions for herself and not free from the anxiety that developed unto her because being shut out always makes her unable to explore the real world.
As being someone who is like a puppet that is always been intervened by her mom’s decision she became poor in decision-making skill. she often depend on the other factors or people to decide for her because according to her
” independence isn’t something i can do well”.
Her reluctance and dependency stems from spoon-feeding and constant intervention from her mom when she was a child, and so she grew up as something indecisive and not assertive.
Some instances that she can’t decide for herself includes going out somewhere with friends, money management and a lot more.
“A big factor in my educational interest was also intervened by my mother, as I wanted to attend college in Adamson University and I already had a scholarship waiting for me there, but I was forced to attend UE because it is closer to home.”
She also told us that there is this instance that she really wanted to join her school’s ACP (like CAT) training program yet her mom didn’t allow her that they argue about it , she even cried to her mom but nothing happened.
People with this kind of case tend to be jealous just like Angela who tend to be really jealous about her friends being free to do whatever they wanted,
” But when I hear bad things about too much freedom, I am still kind of glad to be a homebody.”
What she always do when her decisions were intervened by her mom is to sulk and cry inside her room for feeling of being powerless- more like a puppet.
People like her manage the given scenario differently but as for her , she would sit in front of her computer and would try to the understand the world through human interaction and through the internet.
She became sort of a rebel and was teased for being Emo (Emotional) because of wearing a lot of black and dark make up making her a goth. She did things her mother didn’t want her to do (the understandable and smart things, though) showing her mom she she didn’t care at all with the intervention. However this case lead her to depression and began to self-harm by creating 47 lashes on her both arm from 2010-2014 because of being shut down and given injustice.
“I had stopped since then”
After all those interventions her mom did to her, she did nothing in return since according to her she was (and still) afraid to fight back. All she did was to create another twitter account and rant and release her anger there (although libelous as it was) and then her mom saw the tweets that made her got sent out of the house for a night and half a day.
Today she is still get intervened and somehow emotionally manipulated.
” Also still surviving slight verbal abuse But i’m hanging on. I need to grow, don’t I”
The researcher interviewed a psychologist to explain the situation Angela is going on through and give us some facts and confirmation with regards to this issue.
According to Mr. Jayson Parenas some effects of this manipulations are as follows:
” the person who will experience the said scenario will feel like she doesn’t have a mind of her own, people will start to become doubtful of himself, the person will loose confidence, she will become less assertive because the person may feel that what she is doing might be wrong, and will always be in the constant state that I might be wrong so I won’t express my idea. Now the person will become more reserved or more withdrawn. She will become more passive, less Active. In the case of Angela she has shown these examples the way she act and interact with things around her. “Pretty much, the person will act as a rebel because they would want to express themselves. They can’t really go after or confront the person who is making decisions for her, so chances are she would tend to displace.”
According to him, rebellious acts, may not really be as aggressive as you think. for example you were placed in a program that you did not really like, you can attend classes, you can take quizzes but then again you can either deliberately or not deliberately feel not because you are not really motivated to do so. it is not as active as cutting class, or reprimanding the teacher just it, like passive aggression.
While on the other hand is the active aggression, wherein she became attracted to a person who is providing the sense of appreciation for her. Just because at home, her decisions was disregarded, nor she can’t decide for herself then all her attention were pointed to that person. there will come some instances that she will get absent to class.
Of course this scenario will lead to depression and suddenly self-harm with regards to resilience. It is resilience that will define whether the person will engage in a self injurious behavior. Those who are less resilient have a high risk of developing self injurious behavior.
“For some people , the only way through is to get through, and for the people who are depressed or less resilient, the only way is to get out. They would tend to off themselves but of course it depends on the resilience of a person.”
According to him, self injurious behavior is a valid scenario/reason enough for self injurious behavior when you’re not being allowed to decide. Because making decision is a
sign that you have power over yourself, that you can do something for yourself. The tendency of not deciding for your own denotes that you’re powerless.
“The chances of negative feelings is snowballing. Snowballing to something bigger is really feasible because power is taken away from you making you start to question your existence nor the purpose of your life why is that so leading you to appreciate life and yourself less and less and less”
What can you do to help yourself?
You just have to bear through it, you have to believe that it’s for your own good. But if you really can’t bear it just talk to your parents/manipulators and try to stand to them. There may be some instances that they’ll get mad at you but then again
“You might lose the battle but you can still win the war they can get mad at you but it will just pass. Just slowly assert yourself.”
She’s Jemima Angeli Reyes a 21 year old Electrical Engineering student, Just a usual and typical girl she may be but once you get to know her, you’ll understand her deeply.
As I walk along the hallway of TYK 4th floor of UE Caloocan, I approached her If I can interview her. She is approachable and allowed me to have her time.I asked her several questions regarding her unique characteristics and there i found that she’s not a typical girl as i thought she is.
I started to ask her name and everything went well and smooth. The next thing i asked were all about her unique experiences as an individual. “Wala naman ako masyadong unique experiences but as far as i remember is that when i was in grade 3 I was bullied by my teacher for an unknown reason” you read it right once you catch a glimpse on her you wouldn’t know that she have been bullied before, as we continue our conversation she told me that she was in an ace class during her elementary days up until when she was bullied during her third grade and got her grades low making her to fail on her subjects then. During her High school days she became a varsity of lawn tennis and was given an opportunity to compete in different inter school competitions. On the first hand i thought she is not an athletic type of girl since she look shy and timid. “Di lang halata sa katawan ko pero honestly pinanlalaban ako sa BULPRISA, PRISAA at CLARAA”. Afterwards I got to know that she’s good in playing violin, writing songs and writing inspiring quotes.
Actually I don’t know her personally but as we go along our conversation I got to know her deeper. My impressions towards her were proven wrong . I thought she’s one of those kikay girls based on her appearance yet she’s not. She is one of the Maria Clara of this generation, She was raised in a Christian family, she’s an active member of their church. She was included in their music team and sometimes she conducted cell groups together with some of the youth of their church “Pero ngayon hindi na masyado kasi busy sa school since graduating na ako” and then I asked her something unique in their family and she answered “Sa tingin ko yung pagkakaron namin ng family devotion, unlike others na ang family time nila ay gagala kung saan or manood ng movie at kung anu anu pa ang sa amin ehh sama samang pagbabasa ng bible at pag aaral ng salita ng Diyos”, amazing isn’t it. Admittedly that though I also belong in a christian family we didn’t have family devotion and it’s a good point to know that she’s a God-centered individual. As a typical girl she doesn’t have much social life since she was forbidden to go out for leisure and she is only using Facebook rarely and other social means? -none.
Just like me, I found out that she is the third child out of 5 siblings in the family. She somehow also experienced the third child syndrome just like me but she didn’t dwell about it at all. Unlike me who’s hungry of love and attention of my parents that i did everything just to get their attention yet nothing happened. I also found out that she have five (5) bestfriends and what’s unique with them is that they have constant communication that it won’t last a day without receiving even a single message from them. “Sobrang close namin that we became confidant that we never na may problema yung isa di kami magdadalawang isip na kontakin ang isa’t isa just to breathe out”. when here i am despite of having many friends still every problems i have were kept by myself alone.
She’s an Electrical engineering student and that’s what make her unique since “madalang para sa mga babae ang kumuha ng Electrical Engineering na course”. Apparently she aspire to become a lawyer. She has this attitude of being an investigator. She feels like being a detective out of curiosity when there is something she want to find out. “Ewan ko kung bakit pero pag sobra kong gustong malaman yung isang bagay, i do all the means para malaman ko kung anu yun, i go surf the net, ask random people and di ako nasasatisfy sa mga simpleng bagay lang, talagang inaalam ko every single detail, ang weird noh”.
Knowing her is something that I would not forget, why? it is because apart from knowing her i will just judge her based on her physical characteristic nor the way i perceived her. I wouldn’t know that there are a lot of unique characteristic she possessed and that we have similarities in life.
“Don’t Judge the book by it’s cover, read and understand them first”
This, not that; over there; No! Stop, you should do this, you should do that; Follow me. Some sort of forces that is controlling you to do the things you may not want yet you can’t hardly resist since you are chained and tangled unto his command.
Ever since from the beginning of time everyone is subjected on to command, on to power of someone who is on top. Someone who is superior over you, someone who has the power over you. We were just a mere puppet since everyone can’t fully move according to what they wanted.
As an individual, youth of today’s era, I am also subjected on to various of powers hindering me to do the things I want. First and foremost, I am subjected over my parents’ power. There are lots of unreasonable restrictions and unjustly limitations. Considering that I’m a grown up man who knows how to handle himself and who knows how to decide for himself but I have no choice to follow them. Another is that I am subjected over the power of the state, making me think twice whether I am free or it’s just a mere label. Yes, I believe it’s for the common good but how about the freedom thingy? oh! yes I know, I have no choice but to follow and act accordingly. Lastly I am subjected over the power of my own. This is the hardest power to handle with, since there were times in my life the I battled with myself, I contradict myself, think twice over myself and doubted myself. It sometimes become uncontrollable and hard to handle with since I’m confused, empty distraught, in this quagmire of my darkness.
These powers affect me that much making me insane, uncomfortable, unrest since as for me those power is restricting me to be the person I want to be, to do the things I want to do and to be free as I wanna be. We’ll I know, this is life and this is the reality all I need to do is to follow and be a puppet of the powers over me. But I believe time will come that I will be free and break free from these powers and live the life I ever wanted.
I am a mere puppet trying to break free from the powers over me.
A single piece is important for one may lost the whole is affected.
They say it’s a whole bunch of shit thinking for a fairytale story knowing that it’s all just a story of shits making people believe for a happy ending. As days pass by there are a lot of things I realized that sometimes fairytales are not just a story. They are just a representation of what life is all about. Everything that we see, experience, hear, taste or even touched are all connected to the life that we all have.
This day I watched a movie entitled We are your friends (see the link if you ever wish to watch: HERE) as I go along the movie at first I didn’t appreciate it since it may seem to be a usual movie for a teen like me but as I gone pass through it bits by bits I slowly appreciated the movie. I won’t tell anything about it that I may not spoil you but just a quotable take away I got from that movie is that “Connecting from people around you, from the things around you and for who you are will lead you to SUCCESS”
Everything around us matters and if we take time to take pay attention on those thing we’ll much likely achieve what we wanted in our life. You should learn to connect all of those things around you, learn to utilize it as your stepping stone to succeed, it’s all a working process to be on top and you shouldn’t skip one step for you cannot go down the haywire without taking every step you need to take. Your connections to success is just around it matters to people who appreciates.
Isang araw na lang at magaganap na naman ang makasaysayang yugto sa ating bansa kung saan ang buong sambayanang pilipino ay pipili ng lideratong siyang mamumuno at mamamahala sa ating bansa. Makilahok, Makisali at Makialam, kapakanan mo at ng buong bansa ang nakasalalay dito.
(Photo credits to CNN-Miggy Crisostomo)
Ngayong nalalapit na election, anu ba ang stand mo? Sino ang iboboto mo? At anung mga katangian ba ang hinahanap mo sa isang kandidato. Alam ko naguguluhan ka parin sa mga nangyayari sa iyong kapaligiran, meron ka nang napili na kandidato ngunit nagdadalawang isip ka pa o di kaya naman ay may napili ka nang kandidato marahil sa platapormang kanyang ilulunsad. Maaaring tama o mali ang aking mga binanggit ngunit sigurado ka na ba sa kandidato mo?
Isang malaking pagpapaalala lang sa lahat na bago tayo pumili ng isang kandidato suriin muna natin ang kanilang mga katangian.
Ang mga kandidato ay dapat:
May Integridad, pag sinabing integridad ay yung gumagawa ng mabuti sa lahat ng oras. Kaakibat nito ang salitang Honesty, kung saan ang isang kandidato dapat na tapat sa kanyang serbisyo may nakatingin man o wala, Tapat sa isip, sa salita lalong lalo na sa gawa. Isang kandidato na may isang salita, na hindi lamang puro palatag ng papel sa umpisa at kapag nakaluklok na ay wala na.
Huwag maniniwala sa mga kandidatong hanggang sa umpisa lang magaling, hanggang eleksyon lang mabait at madaling lapitan. Siguraduhing ang kandidatong pipiliin mo ay tapat at may integridad sa kanyang pagseserbisyo para sa bayan
Ang kandidatong dapat mong piliin at iboto dapat ay hindi lang dapat puro talino at kaalaman, dapat ding isa alang alang ang kanyang kakayahan sa pagsasagawa ng mga plano at platapormang kanyang nais gawin. Tignan ang kanyang kapasidad sa bawat aspeto ng kanyang pagkatao. May mga kandidato kasi na hanggang salita lang, sisiluin ka sa mga plataporma nyang pangmasa daw kuno at pagnahulog ka na sa kanyang mabubulaklak na salita ay talo ka na.
Ang kaalaman ay hindi sapat kung walang kapasidad at kakayahan sa pagsasagawa nito lalong lalo na kung wala naman talagang intensiyong isagawa ang bawat platapormang nakalatag. Tandaan sadyang matatalino ang mga tao ngayon, hahanapin muna nila ang iyong kiliti at pag nahulog ka na sa kanilang bitag ay tapos ka na.
Dapat ang kandidato mo ay may malinis na kamay at adhikain para sa bayan. Huwag pipili ng kandidatong ang iniisip ay pangsarili lamang. “service more than self” yan dapat yung pinanghahawakan nila. May mga kandidato kasi dyan na tumatakbo sa isang posisyon sa gobyerno dahil mayroon silang intensyon , maging pansarili man ito o para sa bayan talaga.
Huwag maniniwala sa sa mga kandidatong nagmamalinis, kandidatong walang ibang pinakita sayo ay yung puro kabutihan nya at mga nagawa para sa bayan. Mas mainam na ibackground check mo muna ang bawat kandidato at kilalanin mo muna silang mabuti.
Kandidatong may puso at paninindigan. Dapat ang kandidato mo may paninindigan, hindi yung madaling maimpluwensyahan at mabulungan ng mga taong nasa paligid nya. Kandidatong may puso para sa serbisyo, kandidatong pursigido at ang mindset ay para sa pilipinas lamang. Yang ang mga nararapat na maupo sa posisyon at mamuno sa buong nasyon.
May mga kandidato kasi na mabilis magbago ang isip lalo nap ag nabulungan na ng mga nasa paligid nila, mga kandidatong hindi kayang suportahan yung mga platapormang nilalatag nila, huwag papadaya dahil sa huli ikaw din ang magsisisi.
At ang pinakahuli sa lahat ay hindi sakim sa kapangyarihan. May mga tao ngayon na walang ibang hinangad kundi ang magkaroon ng kapangyarihan sa kadahilanan may kani kaniya silang intensyon. Mga kandidatong kapag hawak na ang posisyon ehh ginagamit lamang ito para sa kanilang sarili lamang. Madaling magbalatkayo, madaling ipakita ang mga bagay na hindi ka naman talaga marahil sa ngayon ay ganyan sila sa kung anu mo sila nakikita ngunit hindi mo din masasabi kung anu talaga sila once na nasa kanila na ang kapangyarihan.
Huwag maging isang BOBOtante, siguraduhin mong maigi na ang kandidatong pipiliin mo ay karapat dapat para sa posisyon. Huwag mong hayaang sa huli ay ang buong bayan ang magsisisi. Maging mapanuri at mapagmatyag, hindi lahat na nakikita ng iyong mata at naririnig ng iyong mga tenga ay syang dapat paniwalaan. Isa alang alang mo na ang kapakanan ng ating bayan ay nakasalalay sa pinunong uupo sa posisyon at kung hindi tama at karapat dapat ang iyong iboboto, paano na ang ating bayan?
May mga bagay talaga na di mo sukat akalaing mangyayare, yung inaakala mong safe na ay hindi parin pala, yung inaakala mong okay na di pa pala at yung inaakala mong masaya ka na pero matatapos din pala.
Minsan sa buhay ko naranasan ko ng masaktan dahil sa pagiging kampante ko sa mga bagay bagay, ang lakas ko kasing magassume ayun in the end wala din pala. Narealize ko wala na pala talagang safe na lugar ngayon dahil nagkalat na yung mga masasamang tao, nakapaligid lang sya sayo hinihintay ang tamang pagkakataon para makalamang sayo pero ikaw naman tong assuming na safe ka at walang mangyayari sayong masama,nagpakampante ka at di mo inisip ang mga bagay na maaaring mangyare. payong kapatid wag magpakampante at maging alerto anumang oras, di natin masasabi kung kelan tayo aatakihin ng masasamang tao.
Minsan naman namimisinterpret natin yung mga bagay bagay, yung akala mo okay na pero yung totoo hindi pa pala talaga, kasi minsan nagiging insensitive at manhid tayo, or wag nating sabihing minsan kundi madalas ang iniisip natin ehh yung pangsarili nating kapakanan kaya minsan nagmimistula tayong bulag sa mga bagay na akala natin ehh tama na, okay na pero hindi pa pala talaga. Minsan naman iisipin natin na okay tayo pero ang totoo hindi naman talaga kasi apektado parin tayo sa nakaraan na kahit anong pilit mong kalimutan ito ay may mga bagay parin sayo na pilit ipapaalala sayo kahit ayaw mo. Lesson learned? Never Assume and Deny mas masakit yun.
At eto pa ang masaklap, may mga pagkakataong inaakala natin na tuloy tuloy ng kasiyahang nararanasan natin dahil nandun tayo sa peak of enjoyment na tinatawag na kung saan wala kang pakialam sa mga bagay na mangyayari dahil isinasarado mo ang sarili mo sa kasalukuyang kasiyahang nararamdaman mo. Ang saklap nyan kasi lahat naman tayo naghahangad ng kasiyahan at kaligayahan sa buhay tapos bigla bigla nalang may mangyayaring isang bagay na di motalaga inaasahan na siyang magpapabago sa pakiramdam mo sa kasalukuyan. Advice ko lang never settle for short time happiness, expect that in life there’s also sadness, pain and suffering and we should be ready for it.
tatlong punto ngunit iisa lang ang konteksto, tatlong pangungusap ngunit iisa lang ang pinaguusapan yun ay ang mabigat na katagang “ASSUMING”, masyado tayong nagiging kampante at assuming kaya minsan may mga negatibong bagay tayong nararanasan na lingid sa ating kagustuhan. Minsan na tayong nasaktan, napahamak at nabiktima at huwag na nating hayaang maulit pa. Maging alerto, mapanuri at mapagmatiyag huwag magpakakampante at magisip ng maigi bago sumabak sa mga bagay bagay, kelangan isaalang alang mo ding ang ibang bagay bago ka sumigi at lumarga.